Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you. (Galatians 5:1 The Message) There are subtle and less subtle ways that others - friends, family and colleagues, can tether us through manipulation and control. But the good news is, that if you can recognise what's happening you learn to say, 'no!' and can begin to break that control. Love releases, it doesn't chain. It's as we release people to walk in the freedom of our love, that they want to return to us rather than feeling they have to, or ought to. That's the nature of unconditional love - it's unconditional! If you're a people pleaser, you're more likely to be caught in this trap. I've made this mistake in the past, but no longer - I'm sold out for God and know I'm called to do His will and to please Him. It's much better to be a God-pleaser than a people-pleaser!He's the only person I'm yoked to. There's safety, protection and freedom in being yoked to God!